Restoration of mother daughter relationship, Taryn Morris wasn’t actually trying to fill in parts of her life’s puzzle, though questions had existed in her mind about her birth mother and any other siblings she may have had. Then, her daughter, Taylor offered her own DNA sample to “23 and Me,” searching for ancestry and medical history. As it turned out, Taryn had a sister, Diana, who had also submitted DNA to “23 and Me,” and the organization had connected her and Taylor as possible first cousins, and was in the process of verifying names when Diana had made the connection, and sought permission from her mother to arrange a meeting, and Taylor asked her mother, Taryn, if she still had hope of meeting her birth mother — from Germany.
“I had just left that in God’s hands,” explained Taryn, who thought her mother would most likely be an unreachable ocean away. “If it happened, it happened, and if it didn’t, God had other plans.”
Taryn was actually born in Germany, and was offered for adoption as an infant. The first couple to adopt her was an older couple, and the father an alcoholic, who found it difficult to bear a screaming baby in the home, so she was surrendered back to the orphanage. At nine months of age, Taryn was adopted by a German mother, who married an American soldier, and Taryn honors their memory when telling about the plan she believes God unfolded for her life.
The young family eventually moved to the United States, where Taryn and her adopted brother were raised, and now possess citizenship. “My adopted parents were honest and answered questions about my adoption,” she said. “My Dad was the nurturer. I think he would have been ecstatic for me, finding my birth mother,” she continued with a hesitant grin, as she marveled at God’s timing, “My Mom, though, would probably have been a little jealous.”
Recognizing God’s plan for restoration, His hand in the whole situation, and the way it evolved, Taryn shared some Bible verses that have encouraged and inspired her through it all: Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Revelation 21:5 reads, “Behold, I am making all things new,” and last but not least, “He has made everything beautiful in its time.” Ecclesiastes 3:11
Indeed, Taryn and her family were able to experience a joyful meeting over Memorial Day weekend this year, with her birth mother, sister, her niece and nephew’s wife, and her mother’s husband in Sarasota, Florida, where the 52-year married couple had retired. It so happened, Taryn’s step-father had also served in Germany as an American soldier, which is how her mother arrived in the United States. She did not know that her precious little “Gudrun” (Taryn’s name given at birth) had also come across the sea to live in the Land of the Free, the Home of the Brave.
“I am privileged,” Taryn said, “to be accepted into their family and that God would allow me to tell this story. If I give one person hope with this story, I will feel like I will have completed my mission.”
Taryn sees her birth mom as a hero, though she said her mother doesn’t necessarily feel that way. Taryn expounded, “She doesn’t know what a hero she is. She knew when she was pregnant, that she couldn’t take care of me. She could have made alternate decisions, and she chose to make the right decision to give me a better life, and a better hope. I think God has a purpose for every conception.”
“When we look at adoption, we always focus on the people that receive the child, but we don’t really focus on the person that bore the child,” said Taryn, who now has a different perspective, and sees her birth mother as courageous, knowing that she already had two other children and was not able to care for another; yet she chose adoption, as opposed to other available options, so that her baby daughter could have life and hope.
Despite uncertain beginnings, Taryn and her birth mom now text every day, and call each other once a week. Desiring to absolve any tendency toward guilt feelings, Taryn said that she told her mom, “God knew the day that she handed me over to the person at the adoption agency, that 54 years later, this time would come… It was in His plan, or it never would have happened.”
Content that God’s promises bring true hope and restoration, Taryn said, “The two major parts of my world have been restored: my marriage and my relationship with my Mom.”
At the end of July, Taryn returned for another delighted visit with her mother. She said that in one way, when they first met via text message on May 22, they were perfect strangers, but when they met it person, it was like they had known each other all these years…restoration. “I didn’t know I was missing this,” said Taryn, “but now I feel complete.”